bleh
roommate issues... one of my roommates is constantly taking advantage of me and my kindness. i need to put my foot down, and as my (only female) roommate says, "be assertive". if he asks me to help him with something, i am allowed to say no if i am busy.
this applies to the other guy, too, who asks me last minute for help moving something when he had helped me before - he didn't make it a condition of having helped me, but says, "i helped you so i expect you'll help me". not fair, i think, especially to ask me last minute when i have other things going on. ... so i just stood up to the guy, and he seems really disappointed - i said, "i cannot help you today, but i can tomorow." and he said, "well, ok, i guess i will try to get it over here then..." like i am supposed to feel guilty.. and i recall the conversation M & i had regarding annoyance and how we'll do anything to keep people from being annoyed at us because THAT'S THE WORST and i decided - TOO BAD, my roommate's annoyance is HIS PROBLEM because *he* is the one who waited til the last minute to ask my help. so it's not my responsibility, how he feels.
this applies to the other guy, too, who asks me last minute for help moving something when he had helped me before - he didn't make it a condition of having helped me, but says, "i helped you so i expect you'll help me". not fair, i think, especially to ask me last minute when i have other things going on. ... so i just stood up to the guy, and he seems really disappointed - i said, "i cannot help you today, but i can tomorow." and he said, "well, ok, i guess i will try to get it over here then..." like i am supposed to feel guilty.. and i recall the conversation M & i had regarding annoyance and how we'll do anything to keep people from being annoyed at us because THAT'S THE WORST and i decided - TOO BAD, my roommate's annoyance is HIS PROBLEM because *he* is the one who waited til the last minute to ask my help. so it's not my responsibility, how he feels.
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